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ADULTERY - January 2010
The consequences of adultery are most
often catastrophic and painful but
they can open the door to a new life.
Let’s look how you can manage
the fall out of a partner being unfaithful
and move on.
When you find out your partner has
been unfaithful you will experience
an emotional melt down. You will feel
betrayed, you will lose trust and your
heart will hurt and you will be angry.
Express all these feelings. Write what
you feel down and burn them. Turn your
anger into physical action, running,
throw stones into the sea, let it out.
You will ask why?
Realise the cause is most often within
your partner.
Maybe they are unable to commit, or
had unfulfilled expectations, or not
ready for responsibility, or are a
sex junkie or even fell victim of what
I call a preying mantis – someone
who gets their kicks out of stealing
a man or woman to show their own power.
What next? You
choice will depend on the circumstances,
your own feelings
and how strongly you are prepared to
fight to save the relationship. Ten
years ago Mary discovered her husband
had been unfaithful. After her initial
emotional outburst, she decided to
fight to get him back. They’d
had 30 years of marriage and she still
wanted to share her senior years. She
didn’t hate or despise him but
saw him as weak. She filled her life
with things that made her happy, so
she didn’t depend on him alone
for her personal satisfaction and fulfilment
so she saved her marriage.
You may choose
to leave your partner. Think hard
before you take this route
for it takes courage but it offers
the opportunity to start with a fresh
blank screen, to create a new life.
If you partner has been cruel, oppressive
or abusive this is by far the best
route to take. It’s better for
children to see both parents separated
but happy rather than live in a broken
and angry home.
Whether you stay or go take what you
can from the experience. Know yourself
better, gain inner strength, form new
friendships and interests, enrich your
life any way you can. After the initial
mourning and grieving, let go the poison
of bitterness and anger and step forward
and leave the past behind.
Love and blessings Anne
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